🔵 By Lorenzo Hutson. Photo by lauragrafie.
I have a thought to elaborate on, this has been universally characterized as “Freudian Factor”, among any single man or woman who’s seeking a partner. It has been indoctrinated within our mindset for us to seek out a woman who reminds us of our mother. As for women to be on the lookout for a soulmate who resembles their father.
Potentially, this could arguably spark the debate as to the reason a woman may potentially discover solace from a man who could be coined as a Teddy Bear. I actually can understand this. To seek out a lover who will treat a woman with unconditional positive regard. Will not judge, and willing to forgive her for her mistakes, and vow to protect her, forging the impetus for her feeling safe around him. He is usually a little older, and sometimes much older, and usually, this has paved the way to loving the strongest man you have ever known. While on the other side a man is searching for a woman who is nurturing, loving, supportive and has significant faith in him when everyone else appears to waver. She’s excellent in the culinary department, loves him as if she raised him, and does not believe any woman will ever meet the criteria to be a representation of the family. Could this contribute to Oedipus notion or theory? Oedipus was the son who murdered his father, and inevitably married his mother (my point isn’t this literally).
About 15 years ago I believed that I had found the love of my life, she had reminded me of my mother in every way but there was something I wasn’t aware of. In the aftermath of my arrest, the love of my life had severed ties with me, after one year. What I’ve also discovered was that my mother had separated from my father while he was incarcerated on a weapons charge, prior to my mere existence. I concluded that while my mother is a terrific mom to me, she wasn’t as great of a girlfriend and that was how I had to view my former love. Yes, she was a great mother, she just wasn’t girlfriend or wife material. So speaking from personal experience, this is the motivation and reason that I am seeking a woman who’s not like my mother. Of course, I , was well as everyone else in the world of 8 billion people would want to find a sense of belongingness within the person they encounter. Including a prospective person’s social imagination to be the detector that would be willing to look into my direction as a person who’s willing to get to know me.
To take a view “outside the box” (Freudian Factor), and grow to understand and appreciate each other, even if both parties have come from different worlds. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having some things in common, however, it’s the differences between two people/cultures that allow them to grow a mutual respect. Sometimes, It takes meeting your opposite, in order to uncover your destined equal soulmate.
Once again, my name is Lorenzo Hutson, I am an African American male who is 40-years of age, I am 6ft 11in tall at 260 pounds. I am a college student, who’s also incarcerated at Mule Creek State Prison. I have recently earned Associates Degrees in social work/human services, social and behavioral sciences, sociology and American Studies. My goal is to eventually get out of prison and counsel others who are struggling with addictions or abuse. I am very easy to communicate with and am hoping to meet a friend, possibly more one day, especially due to my current residency in a very lonely environment. I am a fan of writing letters, however, I could also be reached by downloading the GTL network. Sometimes fear of the unknown is understandable, but fear of trying is unacceptable, and action conquers fear.