🔵 By Kenneth Brown. Photo by lauragrafie.
When we give into our urges we lose more control over ourselves each time. When women walk by we can’t help but to check them out thinking nothing of it. If women had a super power it would not be their beauty but the effect it has on men. Within every man there is a balance. Somewhat of a force and without this balance we have no control.
When a man is disturbed that means that balance is being thrown off, the lost of his inner control. There will be times where us as men will lose control because of something that is going on around us. Mistakes will happen. Just a woman greatest gift is her effect on a man, a man’s greatest gift is his balance. We are born to have this balance, it is in our genetics. Just like a mountain, none of the elements will break down our foundation.
As men we tend to choose things that are beautiful, things pleasing to the eyes such as: cars, gold, gems and we all want a beautiful woman by our side. A man’s true weakness is the inability to recover after being thrown off his balance. Returning to that balance after being shook and how we handle these circumstances will dictate how our lives advance. When we are knocked off balance by something external, whether it be something we see of something physically happening it is important to recognize you are no longer even minded and immediately regain that balance.
Sometimes we are thrown off our balance when we expect things to go a certain way and it doesn’t go according to as planned. Triggers start to go off and we begin to move further from our balance and before we fully comprehend the gravity of the situation we are creating we become unhinged. In these moments we are the same person we were before these triggers started going off. The true challenge in these situations is recognizing we are no longer even minded or in control.
When we are able to recognize this for ourselves we have to ask ourselves questions. “Am I proud of this person”, and “Who am I?” Anger is a response to fear. When we act on something based off of anger we’re acting out of weakness. When we are moved from our center. Whether it be because of pride, ego, or fear we begin to question ourselves, our capabilities and that distraction alone could lose wars giving into mental weakness.
These circumstances gives us an opportunity to grow stringer. If we are able to regain focus, recognizing our balance is off and attack these problems head on and refuse to back down or attempt to drown the pain with a substance. (Unless you suffer from some type of mental illness and can’t control what our mind does unless medicated) We have the ability to change the thoughts that throws us off our balance. So, to truly win in life we have to be aware of what triggers us, go through the struggle and ultimately find our balance.